Make a difference

Well, I agree I am not that experienced. I have not seen so much of world as people around me. But there is one thing which I notice, which is the cause of so many problems, so many issues in India. And that simple thing is "Lack of Respect".

People don't respect other people. Be it their caste, community, surname, job, knowledge or money; people are divided. And everyone has their own criteria of this division. Most of the people divide by religion (thanks to our politicians), then some by money and some by color.

This is not only for India, I guess. Every country has their own criteria of division of people. We believe in God but we too believe that God divides us, that God has created us all differently. Perhaps, this is true too. We all are different, we all are unique in our own way but the only thing which we forget is "respect" those differences.

Everyone has their share of problems and struggles in life. You never know what a person has suffered in life and how much he has worked to reach where they are. How much they are still struggling and what is the reason behind their silent smiles. We obviously can't help them but we should not discourage them either. Respect people around you. Respect your juniors, your colleagues, seniors, the maid that comes for cleaning, the shopkeeper who sells you milk, the grocery woman (and woman in all) and you can make a very small but positive difference in their life.

Make it a habit and we can make world a better place to live. We can stop communal riots, we can stop rape and we can stop many crimes. We are no better and no worse than people around us. Its just that circumstances has put us in places where we are. We are still struggling to get a better life and we will always be because we can never be satisfied. But in this process of never ending competition don't forget people are not as lucky as you are. And  try to show some respect to all people around you. And you know what, it costs nothing. :) :)

Happy Independence Day!!!

Happy Independence Day to all.

It’s been 66 years since we got freedom, and from the very first year the only question which comes into the mind of average people (Aam Janta) is “are we really independent??” Yes, I know this is a cliché now, but don’t you think we need answers.

India is free from British rule but now it is under “Politicians” rule. There are still only few people who are running India. I am not a supporter of any political party but I am only an average person, who is confused when I go to vote. Whom should I vote? Nobody is good enough to run a vast and culturally diverse country like India. What should I do? And no one has the answers. It is easy to say “please, vote” but my question is “please tell, whom I should vote? Who is not corrupt? Who is a true Indian if one exist?”

Daily on many social media platforms there are post about India and its issues. How some people are ruining our country and how we should do something? There are advertisements that we should take some steps to free our country from all the corruption. But tell me can we actually do something? Believe it or not, candle light marches and fasts are no option. We don’t need Gandhi steps, we need Bhagat Singh steps, but can we do this? I don’t think so. We are afraid, not for us but for our family. We are afraid, how our steps and decisions will affect them in a country where people are put to jail due to some status update on Facebook.

Girls are raped on streets and people don’t do anything, people are met with accidents and we are just mute observers, why? Not because all humanity is lost but because we are afraid. We are scared of the police and the law system itself. We don’t know when we will be dragged into something only because we helped someone. We don’t know, when we will be framed for some false charges. This is the present situation and this is the truth.

I know this will sound bitter to many ears but we all think lets go to office silently. Lets complete our daily chores and live silently and pray that nothing happens to us and our family and alas we don’t have any other option.

This post is not answer to your questions, but this post is question to all the Indians that what should we do? This is the time when nobody wants to send their children to army, as one day they will be killed for nothing and “nothing” will happen afterwards. They will be forgotten. At max, you will be given few lakhs to forget them.

And now we celebrate 66^th Independence Day. I wonder what Bhagat Singh, Subhash Chandra Bose and likes will feel when they see India in 2013.

Happy Independence Day to all.

Friendship Day Special!!!

Happy Friendship's Day to ALLLLLLL.....

Today, on friendship's day, I am writing after a long time for all my friends out there. This is especially for all of you.

Friends are the most priced possession one can have in their life. They may be complete strangers, your spouse, your parents or even your relatives. It is just those persons who are close to your heart and with whom you can share almost everything without any fear or embarrassment. I am blessed to have some very good friends in my life who made me a better person and who made me what I am today.

And most importantly, friendship is the first step to love also [as in my case :-)].

I would like to thank all of you. You guys are really special. And this is for all of you.

We all know distance never separates two hearts and that is the case with some of you. All my friends who are not here with me; they are still in my heart and I miss you all a lot.

Mohammad Ali once said, "Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything."
And that is so true. I learned the actual meaning of friendship from few of my friends; and I thank them for making me believe in it (friendship).

They taught me how to be good friends, how to trust people, how to stand for your friends, how to set all wrongs right, how to sometimes just listen and how to encourage and motivate them. One of them even taught me how to avoid some unavoidable circumstances ;-).

In the end, I just want to say, thanks all for being in my life and be with me always..

A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down.

- Arnold H. Glasow

Few unanswered questions (about IT world)...

Edit: Well,  after an year I realized that these are the questions, not on IT world, but on life itself... :) :)
Thanks Sachin for pointing this out :)

1. Why do people look down on each other?
2. Why doesn't friendship exist here?
3. Why are people bent on using others?
4. Why they make only those relations from which they can benefit?
5. Why is honesty not present here?
6. Why the person who clearly speaks his/her mind is punished?
7. Why the person who cares about others is considered as weak and is being used?
8. Why being diplomatic in everything you say and do is so important?
9. Why people hurt others?
10. Why the person who makes others happy is the one who suffers the most?
11. And why love has such a different meaning here?

P.S.:

• Based on my observation and experience both.
• Would like to say again to all readers that I don't want to leave this field because of this :) :P

Love >> Life

Love!! The most written and the most unexplained topic.

I don’t know why today, why now and why at all I am writing about it. But there is something in my heart  (not mind) which wants to come out. Which wants to be penned down.

Frankly speaking in my life I have never been able to understand this phenomenon known as LOVE. I don’t know what it is, how it happens, with whom you fall in love, why and how many times. I don’t know how to recognize who you actually love or who loves you really. I don’t know who is worth fighting for and who is gonna be with you till end.

Though I know one thing: love is when you are happy. When you look back on all the happy, most funniest, most secured and most serene moments of life, there are few faces which comes by default and that is what love is. When I look back, the first face is of my parents and my brother and I know I love them more than my life and same goes for that special person.

It does not matter if you start thinking about another new person in your life but you will come back to him in the end. It is not how much he earns, what is his status; the thing that matters is how happy is you with him. If he loves you he will do whatever you wish. He will earn to complete all your dreams, all your wishes.

I have seen people just to move away from other people because he is not that rich, he doesn’t earn as much as I am used to spending, he is not smart, he is not in a big company or at a big position or he is not of my caste. But life is very long and a point comes in your life when you realize that these things doesn’t matter. What matters was how much he loved me. How much he cared for me and how much was he willing to do for me.

All this goes for guys too. Just because she is beautiful, or she is your family’s choice or she is of same caste is not gonna make you happy for the rest of your life.

Life is too short to be wasted on these things and too long to overcome from the consequences of your decisions. Its truly said “life is what you make of it”. Its your life, you have to live it and till end the person who is going to be with you will be your spouse and not anyone else.

So choose wisely and never ever have a moment of regret. Because:

“Sometimes, it’s not the person you miss. It’s the feelings and moments you had when you were with them”

And those moments are exactly what you call LIFE. J J J

Life...

Hi friends,

This is after a long time I am writing. I have been deported from HYDERABAD to PUNE. ;) :P

In some ways, it is good, in some it is bad and for me it was necessary. But Pune changed my life a lot. First and foremost, I realized the importance of my friends. I miss them L and then this place taught me a lot in just 2 months.

Working in an IT industry is tough, it’s mean and it’s a struggle. Within 2 months I knew what it is that keeps you here. (which are definitely not positive traits)

These 2 months changed my opinion of various people; some friends, some not so good friends, some colleagues, some seniors J. Now I know what it takes to be here.

It’s a labyrinth. People are mostly NOT what they seem. They say different things and mean different. Here flattery counts more than work, number of hours spent in office counts more than the hours put for productive work. It’s a competition, a race, a plan to let others down.

It might seem to all of you that I hate this place but strangely I don’t. I like being here. I like to observe people, their reactions to different situations and their power to manipulate others. It’s omnipresent. Just open your senses and we can see different minds working differently.

Everyone here has problems. Married people has one set of problems and bachelors have another, guys have one set of problem and gals another. But in all of them one thing that is common is: nobody actually wants to be here. May be I am wrong on this but I still didn’t meet a single soul who actually wants to be here.

Most of the people are here because it’s the shortest way to earn money and possibly easiest also. Another people just went with the flow. After doing B.TECH there is very less option and nobody takes risk. I think I belong to the former category. But its weird and awesome too that such a big industry runs because of the people who were unwilling to join it in the first place.

This place is a museum filled with different type of people. Sustaining here is life itself and you get very little time to sit and think that where are we going? In which direction? But for me the biggest and the most pressing question is “What are we becoming”? Is it really what we want? And is it the way to live our life? And the answer which I get is something which I cant share. J

I wrote this post for all my friends who work here to stop and think for a while and find their own answers to this question. All the best. J J

Gone with the WIND

Hey friends… After all the boring and sad poems I am back with an article. This article depicts the plight of all my friends of Hyderabad.

To continue with my story, as you know I live in outskirts of Hyderabad. One thing that strikes me most about this place is: WINDS.

Wind is the integral part of our lives here. Whether it’s hot or humid (sorry no cold) it’s always windy, in fact stormy.

Before coming to Hyderabad I enjoyed the winds but now the situation is different and all the girls of Hyderabad SEZ(Special Economic Zone LOLss) would agree. I sometimes think wind binds us all together.

When we go to office, we are in dilemma about what to save? Your suit, your hair, your bag or yourself? I am afraid about all my skinny friends, sometimes I think they will fly away. It may be a treat for guys but for gals ………ufff

Now in our food court there is a roof but sorry no walls. So winds all round and flies too. The funny part is chapattis flew away from our plate. So what more, this time you have to save your food also.

Wind makes the climate worse. Whether it’s hot or raining, u need an umbrella but no not here: Because you can’t hold one. They just get turned over and in rain it’s a good way of collecting water. So, sorry, no relief from the weather. Me and my friends were thinking of purchasing some clips to buckle up our suits. That’s the only way now. We even saw a girl who has stitched her suit. Poor us.

But the fact is we all enjoy this. We laugh at ourselves and we are happy with each other. This place may be bad for some and good for some, but one thing that can not be denied is, it taught us all a lot. We all are together here and according to my one of my friend:

हम सुन्दर और सुशील भारतीय नारी बन गए है, रिश्ता आसानी से हो जाएगा :P

When we came here, we were alone and unknown. But now we have friends and what more you can ask for. Someone to teach you, guide you, scold you, TEASE you, to be happy with you, to cry with you, to give you a helping hand, to irritate you, that is what we call FRIENDSHIP.

So to all my friends (especially of Hyderabad SEZ) a very happy friendship's day to all of you and thanks for being with me. :) :)

Heart's Desire...

It was the happiest day of Diya’s life. Arjun proposed her and she readily accepted. She had been waiting for this day for so long. Arjun loved her more than his life and Diya felt the same. They enjoyed their time together, they knew each other, and they understood each other. Being with Arjun, gave Diya an assurance, a security, a trust she never felt before and Arjun found a new meaning of his life with Diya. She was his angel, his guide and his mentor too.

Tomorrow is her marriage and she still can’t keep Arjun out of her mind. Yes, she is not getting married to the only person she ever loved. Why??? The same old Indian story: CASTE. She is a Brahman and Arjun Punjabi.

They tried hard to convince their parents, gave them all possible explanations but they were just not ready. Diya’s parents knew that Arjun is a good guy, in good job, earning well but the problem is “he is not of our caste”.

I am not trying to tell a story here. It’s a situation which every one of you must have seen in your life and some must have gone through it. In some cases parents agree and in some cases children blackmail them but there is a group of people who just follow their parents wish. Either they think highly of their parents and don’t want to hurt them or they just lack the courage to fight.

Whatever be the case: I sometimes wonder WHY? Why parents oppose inter-caste marriage. Why don’t they just grow up and judge a person by his/her character and not caste. Why can’t they understand that happiness lies in love and not in caste? Why they don’t start accepting each other beliefs and customs? Why?

It’s right on their part to worry about their child but it’s wrong to force them to marry someone else. Marriage is a lifelong bond between two souls. If two people understand each other, if they love each other and can live together then why can’t they marry? Just because, they are of different caste? What a crap?

I think it’s time we should take stand and think about this. Marriages can bind India. In my view, inter-caste marriages will help people of different castes to come together and understand each other. They will learn to respect each other. It shouldn’t be a taboo but it should be a part of our life.

It is said that “you can’t change others but you can change yourself”. So it’s time that we expand our mentality and break this shackle of caste, so that our children could live a life free from this CASTE. 

My Life - Part 1

Hi to all the people who by luck (either good or bad) happen to visit my blog...

This is my first blog entry. I love writing but don't have enough experience. So let's try out....(on you)

I happen to be a software engineer. I won't say I don't enjoy this field but there is some pros and cons.. Basically the only pros in my case is I like my work (if I get any). So I am one of the very few who like their job. The cons are you just can't decide what you want. If you don't get any work then you are sad and frustrated  and irritated blah blah blah... Ironically if you have work then also you are all of the above. So it's a tough decision :)

Besides that, in IT world you learn a lot of things.. You learn to be manipulative, diplomatic, selfish, adulating, commenting... Oops that are all negative traits (I realized just now). But then also you get to learn a lot about life, about people. And that brings me to PEOPLE..

I daily met a variety of people. Some are my seniors and some colleagues (I dont have juniors yet :)). I like them all (No, I am not lying) but it's great fun observing them. All are so different, from different places, different habits, different likes and dislikes and in a nutshell it's fun to interact with them and hard to cope up with them (but I am doing good). I will try to include some interesting facts about them in my subsequent blogs. :)

I belong to North India and for the past 9 months I am living in  South India. Forget about the different countries, even India feels so different in South. Not that I don't like being here: I love visiting different places but even after so many months, it doesn't seem to be a part of India :)... Some things are common like natural beauty (esp of Mysore), traffic, heat (climatic condition) etc but rest like culture, food, LANGUAGE :( , so different. But again I like my life here :) (My lines reminds me of a famous speech by Mark Antony in Julius  Caesar)

The best part of this life is to earn and live your life with your money. I especially enjoy sending presents to my family, it's a great feeling when you realize that now it's your turn to do something for them. For the people who toiled their whole life for you. To cook, to do the laundry, to purchase stuff from market, to maintain your flat, all by yourself.. Things that I even can't imagine to do a year before. Ya, it's a bit boring and monotonous but sometime I just can't believe how my mom managed it and is managing for so many years..

Hmmm, I think it's time to stop writing.. (Have to go to office tomorrow). Hope you enjoyed a little part of my life.. See you all soon.. Until then keep reading..